“What can I do?” you ask. I’m just one person. I’m not a leader. I’m not a pastor. I’m not a politician. I’m just one person with a desire to help in some way. Great! We welcome your desire, we love your courageous heart, and we need YOUR VOICE! Your voice can be more powerful than you know, more healing to a hurting heart than you may ever understand, and bring calm to a chaotic situation…please use it…SPEAK UP, I can’t hear you!!
Have THE Conversation! Let’s just start there. Asking heart- and mind-searching questions of yourself and others is a huge step to awareness – we can’t fix what we don’t know!
Are you scared you may say the wrong thing? You probably will…I often do, but if we speak from a heart of love, ask questions from a position of humility, and be present in an attempt to learn, not teach, I believe your desire to help will be the change you wish to see in this world!
Having these conversations can be awkward and uncomfortable. But growth and progress is not made by playing it safe. You want results? Or do you just wish to appear to be an advocate? Being an advocate is not for the “faint of heart” and will require big girl panties. Are you ready?
Here is…”THE Conversation Starts Here!”…a set of question cards and a worksheet for those of you who have asked…”How can I help?” Family Group Facilitator, Jessica Tumusiime, has created these meaningful questions on race, color, experience, and perception you can use right now to guide you along the way.
As I stated earlier, the most helpful thing you can do right now is to speak up. But knowing what to say doesn’t come from speaking, it actually comes from listening. Open dialog and Listen! Be prepared to hear things that might hurt, shock, amaze, and infuriate you. You will become defensive and that’s ok, don’t act on it, that’s key. Think back to a time when you were defensive in a conversation…did it help or hurt? I promise you it did not help!!!
Advocacy takes practice and courage. Please Speak Up, I Can’t Hear You!!
Teresa R. Getman
The Dare to Dream Diva